Upbeat message for all

I received this message the other day and managed to track down the writer who has given me permission to reproduce it in full in my blog. You can ignore the Afrikaans words and it will not make any difference to the sense of the writing. (Boet and Bru equates to Brother; Howzit is a greeting – How’s it? and there are about 14 rands [R14.00] to the pound).


This is why 2009 is going to be KWAAI


Eish my Boet – the New Year has barely begun and already the prophets of doom are spreading the negativity lekker dik, like Bovril on a braaibrood. They klap us with deeply disturbing issues like the global economic meltdown, soaring unemployment, vehicle repossessions, declining property values, stock market collapses, recession, depression, deflation & stagnation et al. It’s enough to make you naar my bru!

Yet in spite of all this, I find myself feeling positive, upbeat and even (cautiously) optimistic right now. In May 2008 I was gatvol and ready to leave SA. Yet today, January 2009, I am feeling much more at peace and actually looking forward to the year ahead. This is despite having had my office broken into last November and being relieved of my laptop, briefcase, cell phones & digital camera!

Hau” you exclaim, “how is this possible? Has the motivational speaker finally lost his last few remaining marbles?”

Maybe – maybe not. Let me explain. I’m not blind my boet. I know that in many ways, things are pretty desperate right now for a whole lot of people. F’rinstance you don’t want to be an American Auto Worker right now, or a Brit in Financial Services, or an Aussie Test Cricket Supporter. Talk about zero options and no light out there Boet. It must be terrifying to be retrenched, unemployed and anxious with no income and virtually no prospects for any improvement. And the reality is that some “things” may still get worse my Bru. This cyclical correction has been a long time coming and it won’t just fix itself overnight.

But as you know, my nature has always been to consciously focus on the positive “things”, to actively seek out the good stuff going down and then focus my attention on that. And then to go out there and make good things happen, for myself and others. So when my “stuff” was stolen, I immediately chose not to play the victim. Instead I looked at the bigger picture, let go what was gone, felt immense gratitude for that which had not been taken from me and moved on with my life.

If you open your eyes (and mind) and really look, there is actually a lot to be positive about. In fact, quite a few things are looking much better than they were just a few months ago, when the situation really stank. For example:

  1. I filled my car last night, cost me R 330. A few months ago it cost over R 500.

  2. Festive Season road deaths are down a massive 40%. That’s right, forty percent. Unflippingbelievable! And finally, finally they are fixing the Koeberg interchange, Cape Town’s most congested piece of tarmac.

  3. We holidayed in Durban over December. Besides awesome Ushakaland, Glamorous Gateway, Wacky Wavehouse and Radical RJ’s Ribs, the beaches were full of smartly outfitted garbage collectors, friendly tourist guides, hyperactive life guards and sweaty pink pommie tourists. The whole jol ran like clockwork. I was beindruk ek se! Go Durbs!

  4. We klapped the Aussies in the Cricket Test Series! In Aussie nogal. Nobody froze or choked. I’m stoked. And Graham Smith went from zero to Hero.

  5. Bafana Bafana actually scored a couple of goals in some of their last few matches. Go ouens!

  6. COPE gives me HOPE. Too much power is dangerous and our fledgling democracy can only benefit from more opposition for better balance.

  7. Cape Town Mayor Helen Zille was voted the world’s best, and she is one smart, honest, Teflon Tannie. (Nothing sticks to her.) And what an example she is to all politicians.

  8. We have a new minister of health, who seems sort of switched on. And Trevor is still pulling the purse strings (Thank goodness!)

  9. Right now, our SA banks are said to be “safer” than the Swiss, German, British and American banks. And this is partly because of the National credit Act, which gave us so many headaches last year.

  10. We have had some good rainfall and THEY SAY that this should lead to lower FOOD PRICES? (Front page of the Sunday Crimes a few weeks ago) I’ll believe it when I see it, but at least some of the headlines are becoming more positive!

  11. Like it or not, 2010 is coming. And my feeling is we will pull it off, in typical SA style. There will probably be some hiccups and maybe even some big stuffups but overall it is going to be a moerse jol. Buy your tickets soon; they apparently start at only R 120 a pop. (But that probably buys you a seat in the car park for the game between Outer Mongolia and Biafra)

  12. Barack Obama – what more can I say. A bruin ou who can GO!

Yes Mark,” I hear you saying, “this may all be true, BUT what about the terrifying realities of Crime, Corruption, Falling standards of Education, Global Warming, The Financial Crunch, Zimbabwe, Gaza and Minibus Taxis?”

My suggestion is this boet:

GET OFF YOUR BUT’S. (But this and but that.) Move on. Let it go. Get a life. Or make a big sign and go picket against whatever is freaking you out. Just don’t waste your precious energy agonising over stuff you can do nothing about. And if you can do something, then do it. Get involved. Play the game. Stop sniping from the sidelines. It serves no purpose, other than to increase your blood pressure, stress levels and the sales of alcohol and antidepressants. Read my lips as I say it again my boet: GET OFF YOUR BUT’S. Erase the word BUT from your daily dialogue and watch how your outlook on life will change. Dramatically.

Then, if you are feeling adventurous, the next step is to consider occupying your troubled mind with something alternative, creative and uplifting, such as:

  1. Reading the book “A New Earth” by Eckart Tolle. Or if you prefer you could do like I did, buy the 8 CD set and listen to the book whilst driving your car. The traffic becomes so much more bearable my bru. Even the Taxi’s seem less evil. That Eckart oke is one smart dude. Just ask Oprah.

  2. If you have not yet read “The best of 2008 newsletter” then click this link to read a wonderfully written summary of the positive aspects of last year from a SA perspective. It is extremely well written and very uplifting.

  3. Help someone less fortunate than you. Give away a little money, or some of your time, or even some of the old useless stuff cluttering your home and life right now. Get verlig my bru – it feels kwaai!

  4. Adopt a stray pet. It will love you unconditionally, something we should all learn to do.

  5. Read the book “Fifty facts that should change the World.” by Jessica Williams. But be warned – it’s quite mind blowing. Truth can be stranger than fiction.

  6. If you are white, consider visiting a non white township and go see for yourself how the majority of our country lives. It is truly an awesome, eye opening and uplifting experience. Check out the Sangomas, Shebeens and Street Life. Seriously now. Most of our township residents visit the white areas regularly. So why should we not reciprocate and visit them – at least once? Who knows, you may even find my laptop there.

  7. Go to Google images, type in “Solar System” and check out the actual size of our sun and other planets relative to the earth. It really puts things into perspective. Or even easier, just click this link.

  8. Also at Google images, type in Hubble Telescope and look at some pictures of the 100 billion or so other galaxies out there, beyond our Milky Way / solar system. Try to see your / the world’s problems in the bigger context of the huge universe. Or click this link for an amazing slideshow of the Hubble pictures.

  9. Find someone to hug. Your partner, kids, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, dogs, cats or rats. Hug them often my bru, tightly and appreciatively. It is the greatest gift that you can ever give and receive.

  10. Start each day by thinking about or writing down all the things that you are grateful for. Then try to accept life’s curved balls without judgement. Gratitude and acceptance are hugely powerful transformational tools.

  11. Get out of your rut. Adopt a practise to help you find more peace of mind. Actively investigate ways to connect to the still space within you. Find ways to change your inner world, and you will notice how the outer world immediately changes for the better.

  12. If none of this helps, please contact me, or visit my website. My presentations and workshops are guaranteed (yes boet – the money back type) to shift negative mindsets and help you to achieve sustainable change. They really do make a difference – in fact I was honoured to receive the following email from a new client just last week:

    “Dear Mark – just a short note to thank you for the excellent and dynamic “Art of Selling” presentation delivered at our National Sales and Marketing Conference on Saturday. You made a powerful and empowering impact on everyone there, myself included! At our dinner event that night, you were very much the topic of key conversation in the most positive and constructive way. We look forward to having you with us on board at future events.”

    Kind regards,

    Maria (CEO)

Anyhow, I hope to hear from you soon. In conclusion, I will leave you with a few beautiful lines written by Alberto Villoldo PH.D, from his book “The Four Insights:”

“To be a sage means that when you look around you, you see only beauty. You will come to understand how everything you experience is a projection of your inner landscape or dream. This means that nothing ever happens to you, since you’re the creator of each event and incident in your life. So you never need to fix anything in the outer world – if you want to transform some circumstance that appears to be outside of yourself, you just need to own it and change it within!”

Look after yourself. Till next time – totsiens!

Stay close to the centre of the cyclone. It’s always calm in there.


Email: mark@markberger.co.za
Landline: (021) 554 0787
Cell: 083 259 5250
Website: www.markberger.co.za
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  1. #1 by markbergerspeaks on Saturday, 31 January 2009 - 9:07 pm

    Howzit Andrew – Hey thanks a mil for publishing my message! I am honoured ek se! I hope you and your readers have an AWESOME DAY. With Love, Mark

  2. #2 by The Machinist's Wife on Saturday, 31 January 2009 - 2:39 pm

    Bleddy lekker article, jong. Go Mark! Go us!

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